The Notebook

Yesterday I posted about a sweet old man that displayed a random act of kindness towards me.

I posted:

“I have a weakness for old people. I have a weakness for old men that tell stories about their life and talk about their wives. I have a weakness for old men who you can tell have loved and lost. Who loved their wives more than anything in the world. I hope Sean continues to love me and his fondness of our life together creates such a bond that it shows in the way this man’s love for his late wife did. How incredibly beautiful”.

I also mentioned that my grandpa is one of those men. My grandpa Gregoire, to be specific. He loved my grandma in that capacity.

Do you recall the movie The Notebook? It is probably my favorite movie of all time for multiple reasons. Who doesn’t agree that it is one of the sweetest love stories? Well, it reminds me of my grandpa and grandma Gregoire. The story is told from the perspective of an elderly man in a nursing home as he reflects on falling in love with the love of his life. You can almost feel the love and passion that he had for his wife as he retells the story of their life together. It is so romantic and heartwarming. It emulates the life that my grandpa and grandma had together.

My grandparents married and had children in the 1940s, which is the era that the movie takes place in. My grandpa knew he would love my grandma the moment he laid eyes on her, according to him. Grandpa was such a gentleman that he respected my grandma’s wish to not kiss until their wedding day. They spent many days going to local dances together.

My grandmother suffered from Alzheimer’s for a great number of years at the end of her life. Did that turn my grandpa away? Absolutely not. He loved my grandma until “death do us part”. Alzheimer’s is a horrible disease that erases your memory. Even when my grandma had to live in a nursing home in their retirement community, while grandpa stayed living in their assisted living apartment, he would never miss a day to go down and have lunch with her. Each and every day he was there because that it was he vowed and he loved her unconditionally.

Grandma passed away in 2008. Grandpa still talks about her often and very fondly. He talks about how great she way and how much he misses her. It makes me sad and happy at the same time. It makes me sad because I can sense how badly he wants to reunite with the love of his life. It makes me happy because they are the perfect display of unconditional love. Their love is something all married couples should strive for.

I leave you with these beautiful quotes about love from The Notebook:

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever”

“I want all of you, forever, you and me, everyday”

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While working my part-time job tonight, I was approached by a sweet old man. He asked me if I wore jewelry. I told him that I usually do. He asked whether I wore earrings, necklaces, or rings. I thought, “what an odd question?”, but I responded “a little of everything from time to time, just depending”. He smiled and said “hold on one second, I will be right back”. He proceeded back out to his van and returned with a bag full of necklaces, earrings, and rings. “Here”, he said, “pick something for Christmas”. It was all so beautiful. I rummage through the bag, smiling. What a kind gesture. This man must be well known in this small town that I was in. As I was looking through the jewelry people passed by, stopping to say “Hi, grandpa Curly”. After looking at all of the beautiful jewelry, I had made a selection. A beautiful, light blue, tear shaped necklace. He said it was sterling silver. I have no idea whether it really is. It doesn’t really matter. It is the thought that counts. This man’s kind gesture made my night. It made my holiday season. I have never met the man before, but it was clear that he gets such joy out of giving jewelry to people and bringing smiles to people’s faces. I get it.

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He sat there and talked to me for quite a while about growing up in the area, living there for 53 years. While talking about this and that, he non-chalantly but quite frequently mentioned his wife (whom it seemed has probably passed). I can’t help but think he goes around handing out this jewelry in memory of her. He mentioned children also. I hope they are still around. I hate to think this sweet old man would be spending the holidays alone. I have a weakness for old people. I have a weakness for old men that tell stories about their life and talk about their wives. I have a weakness for old men who you can tell have loved and lost. Who loved their wives more than anything in the world. I hope Sean continues to love me and his fondness of our life together creates such a bond that it shows in the way this man’s love for his late wife did. How incredibly beautiful.

(My grandpa is one of those men. He loved my grandma in that capacity. That story is a long one and better saved for another day, another blog post).

Anyways, this blog may seem random… but the moral of this story is that this old man has touched my life with one simple gesture. His one simple, kind, thoughtful gesture has left a memory with me that will last a lifetime. He didn’t know me. I may never see him again, but he will forever have made a lasting impression on me, and my Christmas of 2013 will be marked the memory, and  gesture of him giving me that beautiful, light blue, tear shaped necklace and chatting with me for a little while. Thank you, grandpa Curly!

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Never underestimate the power of a simple gesture, a kind word, a smile. You never know the affect you may have on someone’s life.

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL OF YOU!!!

Fight Fat Talk

I am just as guilty of it as the next girl. This thing called “fat talk”. In our society there are so many pictures, advertisements, expectations, etc. sending us the message that we need to look a certain way or be a certain size to be considered “skinny”. This creates the mentality from a young age that we are somehow not worthy, not skinny enough, or don’t look the “right way”. We are products of our society and the pressures existing. It is sad, but it is the reality. Does it have to stay that way, though?

ABSOLUTELY NOT!

You might find this movement interesting. Special K has started a movement to “shuuuuttt down fat talk”, and the movement is called Fight Fat Talk. Check out the link below for more details:

http://www.specialk.com/en_us/fightfattalk.html

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I am also posting two other items addressing fat talk and the affects that it can have on shaping girl’s view of themselves in our society. Just remember the affect that your words and actions can have on shaping how young girl’s view themselves and how that view will carry on into their adult lives.

When Your Mother Says She’s Fat by Kasey Edwards

https://medium.com/human-parts/bf5111e68cc1

Freckle Berry Finds (another blogger that originally posted about the Speacial K Fight Fat Talk movement)

http://freckleberryfinds.com/2013/12/learning-to-like-my-body-and-fightfattalk/

Remember to “be the change you wish to see in the world”.

Fight Fat Talk! Make a change!!

 

Operation Beautiful

As part of a holiday challenge I have been participating in, we were challenged to “leave an operation beautiful note”. I feel very privileged to have come across such a great movement as Operation Beautiful, and I plan on continuing to leave Operation Beautiful notes in random places all year long. The premise behind the Operation Beautiful movement is to end negative self-talk or “Fat Talk”.

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The Operation Beautiful movement encourages people to leave random notes with encouraging messages in public places for other people to find. Who doesn’t deserve to be told that they are beautiful?!?! All too often our society is setting expectations of how we are “supposed” to look. The reality is that we are all unique and beautiful in our own way and deserve to be told that and feel it.

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You can find out more about Operation Beautiful here:

http://www.operationbeautiful.com/

I challenge you to “leave an operation beautiful note”. Don’t underestimate the power of a few words. You never know the difference your kind words might make in someone’s day!

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RAK Happenings

Have you all been out doing you’re Random Acts of Kindness?!?! I want to hear what you’ve been up to! I have thoroughly enjoyed this movement this year. I hope you are too! Here are a few of the things I have been doing.

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Left $1 bills in the Dollar Tree toy section

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Gave handwarmers to the Salvation Army bell workers at Wal-mart

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Left candy canes in random public places

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Left random quotes in public places

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Left money at vending machines

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Left money at the car wash

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Left laundry detergent and quarters at the laundry mat

Sooooo…. let’s hear it! What Random Acts of Kindness have you been doing?!?! Please share your ideas, so we can all join in the RAK movement to spread joy and cheer this holiday season!! ❤

“Elf for Health 2013”

As I have stated previously, I enjoy following other blogs. There are so many people out there in the world with interesting perspectives that are trying to make the world a better place. I find it inspiring and motivating. One of the blogs I follow is The Lean Green Bean (http://www.theleangreenbean.com/). The blog author, Lindsay, has teamed up with another blogger, Elle (http://nutritionella.com/), to create a holiday challenge called “Elf for Health 2013”. Here is a link to the challenge, if you are curious to know more:

(http://www.theleangreenbean.com/elf-for-health-2013/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+theleangreenbean%2FshaJ+%28The+Lean+Green+Bean%29)

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As part of the overall challenge, the bloggers are sending out weekly challenges.

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The first challenge this week was to send out handwritten letters. I thoroughly enjoyed this challenge. In today’s society with constant access to computers, internet, email, and social media, people have gone away from writing handwritten letters. There is something very comforting about a handwritten letter. I chose to write my handwritten letters to my grandpa in California, my husband, a new pen pal that I met through the “Elf for Health” challenge, my co-worker who is participating in the challenge with me, and a miscellaneous person. I got the concept of writing to a miscellaneous person from other challenge participants on the Facebook page created for the challenge. I loved the idea! I chance to reach out to a random person. In the miscellaneous letter, I shared the quote “Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle”. I find this quote can apply to everyone. You never know how your smile can impact someone. Always be kind. Your words and simple gestures could make a world of difference in someone’s day. Take any opportunity to spread joy and happiness to others.

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Friday’s challenge is also a great one. The challenge is to “leave an operation beautiful note”. In my miscellaneous letter, I challenged the random recipient to also “leave an operation beautiful note”. I am also challenging YOU!! Yes, you! If you are curious to learn more, please visit the Operation Beautiful website (http://www.operationbeautiful.com/). It is a GREAT movement!

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(source: http://www.operationbeautiful.com/)

The “Elf for Health” challenge has been so rewarding and refreshing. It has been a great opportunity for personal growth and reflection. I will continue to share with you how the challenge is progressing! Thanks for following! Remember to live life with passion!

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